I am finally starting to piece together this hodge podge feeling that I am approaching this attempt at getting pregnant incorrectly. The truth is I really want to be pregnant. I want to feel a baby grow inside me. I want to provide for this baby, or even these babies. I want the bump. And as much as I will deny this later, I want the nausea, aches and pains. I want to be pregnant.
But that is all about me.
And I am getting hints that the process really isn't, or at least it shouldn't, be about me. Being pregnant is a means to an end -- the way that a new being joins the world. The few spiritual people I have talked with about IF have hinted loudly that I will become pregnant when a spirit decides he or she wants to come into the world and be my child. And there is a spirit baby out there for me, and this pregnancy is about her. (I am going to continue with "her," because I do feel a female spirit baby vibe.)
So whether this upcoming FET works or not doen't depend on me doing the right thing or not. If it doesn't work, it is not because I don't deserve it or because I did something wrong. My spirit baby just wasn't ready yet. It wasn't the right time for her to join the world yet. And only she knows when the right time is.
Re-reading this so far makes me sounds all spiritual and new age. And I am not. And I don't know how much of what I wrote I actually believe. But I do know that it makes me feel better. News from others going trough IVF and FETs right now is not good. I am so sad for these women, my heart aches and my minds cowers - it scares me! So putting a little faith in a spirit baby, taking some pressure off myself, surrendering to the idea of what-will-be-will-be, is helpful.
Oops - it ended up being all about me again. Well, at least I am trying!
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You're so cute. Dude. A blog is supposed to be all about you!
ReplyDeleteI saw you on cycle sista. I wanted to tell you not to be scarded.
Now dont go clicking over to see about me and think holyshitwhatifienduplikeher. I almost left without a comment so as not to scare you, but that is no fun, is it?
Fertility treatment sucks. No doubt about it. The emotional roller coaster is nuts but it also makes you really self focused whether you were before or not! For goodness' sake you now know your cycle inside and out, and have to become familiar with giving yourself shots and letting people invade your body and tell you what is working and what isn't. Take this last chance before you get pregnant to be self focused. Relax with it. It's ok.
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